vows and speeches & 10 Tips For Being Awesome on Camera


he wrote his vows.  which they gave to each other in private.  i wrote my speech.  which i gave at the rehearsal dinner.  if there was one time to put the jokes aside.  that was the one moment.  luv you guys.  cheers.

...and it went something like this...


grandparents, parents, family, friends.  good evening.  first i want to thank everyone for coming to share this moment of togetherness in michael and michelle's life.  i want to thank everyone for making the trip to beautiful newport rhode island.  just by looking at the faces in the audience...it seems i know most of you here.  so i won't have to introduce myself too much.  for those that don't know me.  my name is alex. im one of the groomsmen.  i may not have known michael as long as some of you many of you here but in the past 10 years...but as the man formerly known as chomo80 put it best..."we've been through a lot"

it's funny.  i look around and see a room full of peers, knee deep in adult legitimacy. (esp the penn guys)  kids, strollers, daycare has become the topic of many conversations and with everyones busy schedules, weddings become a great excuse for people to get together.  and no matter how busy...people have been waiting for this wedding.  almost becoming a personal pinnacle of their own lives.  if i could count the number of times people asked me..."whens chomo gonna...."  today's finally the day.  today's probably become the biggest day of my life....not my own...

let me speak first on michael.

as a peer, you want to surround yourself around people you can relate to.  you get along with.  you converse with.  you can drink with.  (a lot)  cuz i dont have friends that don't drink.  ultimately, you admire.  it makes yourself a better person knowing you have this peer alongside you.   as i mentioned earlier, it's truly a testament to the the friend he is that this room is filled with people who have waited so eagerly to be a part of this day.  it's a testament to the success he has.  the adorn of those around him.  if there are two things i know about chomo.  it's "u can't make him do what he doesn't want to do"...and "u always know he'll do right by you"...     

good people means good family.  and these days, inflection stems beyond oneself, but rather pedigree.  we've been joking about this line for a while..."you're just raised too well".  i've met mom and papa cho...and mom #2 (elena) only a handful of times, but there's def a reason in many of our talks i always ask...(what do ur parents say.....did elena say anything to you?)  and now jae and a beautiful baby niece....that deep rooted underlying family network of principle is so strong.  i feel flattered when they ask (where's alex....still a gypsy?).   cheers to you guys. 

"we've been through a lot"  and so obviously dont have stories to tell.  a decade of ketel and soda's will surely mess with ones memory.

i've known michelle probably only a few minutes more than chomo.  i think it was at a halloween party where chomo shows up a lil late...within 2 minutes of walking in the door he pulls me aside and asks...(who is that).  again, i can't remember if that story is correct but i've developed selective memory since living in asia.  and pretty early on, in my sporadic visits back to the states...i always knew it was michelle.  

"mish is the best" - with michael, that line says it all.  short, succinct.  already very well thought out.  already very calculated.  and early on, i knew he was all in.  albeit (scaling in)  but nonetheless all in. 

mish is the best.  as a couple, they claim to have 3 duprees.  (you guys ever see that movie with wilson where the best friend is a couch potato on the couples couch as an oblivious third wheel)  well, i'm one of those dupree's...i come over, plop down on the couch.  and don't leave for a few days.   i whine about life, love and the pursuit of happiness.  there's actually a heavy staple who do the same but official wielding of the two and the love and care they exhibit together towards me, is an obvious.

i look up to their standard of love.
and i wish them continued success, happiness and love...and foreverness....
cheers.




10 Tips For Being Awesome on Camera
BY BRANDON SMITHJul 27, 2013
Video has become the next big thing in personal branding — just look at the success and popularity of apps like Vine and now Instagram video. But beyond just trying to become the next YouTube sensation, people have transformed it into a great platform for job searches. Video résumés have become a way to grab the attention of potential employers, and video calls via Skype have become the norm for long distance job interviews.
Jared Matthew Weiss had a regular spot on The Today Show, a column in Shape Magazine and has consulted over 800 clients worldwide on how to reach their potential. He founded Overture, a company that produces short, chic black-and-white videos designed to capture your story and share it with the world. The personal branding expert was kind enough to sit down and share 10 important tips that will help set your personal video apart from others.
How You Look
1. Wear Clothing That Makes You Feel Good About Yourself
Have some fun with your wardrobe and be sure it reflects your personality. Choose comfortable clothing that showcases the real “you.” To make a slightly more formal statement, a suit and tie or blouse and skirt is perfect. Keep jewelry to a minimum. Feeling good about yourself is key. And it will show.
2. Mom Was Right: Sit Up Straight
The camera exaggerates everything because there is nothing to distract the viewer. If your posture is poor, viewers will think you've checked out and lost interest. Your body should convey your energy and intelligence without being stiff and robotic.
3. Watch Your Body Language — Everyone Else Will
Weiss speaks from personal experience on this one. Throughout his first live television segment he was unaware of the fact that he was impulsively rubbing his leg to calm his nerves. Find a good place for your hands so they aren’t distracting to viewers.
4. Smile With Your Eyes
A warm and genuine smile does wonders for coming across as sincere and confident. But flashing those pearly whites is only part of the key to smiling. The eyes can dictate whether a smile is real or forced. In this case, crow’s feet can be a good thing.
How You Sound
5. Use Your Natural Voice.
While some of us admit to practicing our news anchor voices, leave that “Good evening, Mr. and Mrs. America” voice at home. Be yourself and speak to the camera like it was your best friend. Not only is it more natural, but it’s what people expect. You want your video to reflect who you are, not Brian Williams.
6. It’s How You Say It
You know what you’re talking about. So focus on how you deliver the goods. Pacing matters. If you rush through your spiel, you throw away your credibility. The message you deliver is: what I’m saying doesn’t really matter. Your choice of words is also key. Simple and clear beats a multisyllabic mouthful any day. Enunciate and avoid slang at all costs. Shakespeare didn’t write “ta be or not ta be, dude.”
How To Prepare
7. Look At The Camera As You Would Your Dog
Don’t be afraid of the lens — it won’t bite or even lick you. Just look into it with the love you’d give a welcoming pet at the end of the day. Don’t look around; darting eyes scream, “I’m nervous and desperately searching for the exit!” Blink naturally; excessive blinking signals a lack of sincerity. Don’t be afraid of flubs, either. That’s why we have editors.
8. Keep It Moist
Dry mouth is the enemy of talking. Get that frog out of your throat with a sip of water. Taking a water break can also be a way to step away from the camera and calm your nerves. And keep your lips moist with something other than your tongue!
9. Chill
Don’t go in front of a camera full of nerves and sweaty palms. Do whatever is necessary to help you relax — stretch, do jumping jacks, listen to music, go into the bathroom to talk to yourself. Sit in front of the camera only when you’re feeling calm, cool and collected. It will add to your confidence.
10. Breathing Is Good
Not only is it essential for life, but breathing is necessary to be awesome on camera. Take deep breaths before you go live, and continue to breathe easily when the camera’s on. If you find yourself breathing or talking too quickly, it’s time for a break.

Unless you are portraying a character or alter ego, it’s important to be yourself while on camera. This is especially true if you are using the video to market yourself. Allow you and your personality to flourish and embrace the moving frames.


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