too asian for me.

amazing 66. 

it's hard for people to marry into my family.  we're very asian where outward expressions of gratitude, respect and praise are not outwardly given.  you start at negative and work your way to zero.  if there's a flaw they'll find it.  if there's no flaw, they'll find something else to say.  you have to read between the lines because love and appreciation comes back 2 fold in forms of practicality.  the kind that doesn't give you a hug and kiss and yells at you for doing things right, but in the end buys you a house and a car and whatever else you need. 

"if your guest comes in you offer them tea.  if they say they don't want anything, you still put tea on the table"

"yes doesn't mean yes. no doesn't mean no."

"asian parents don't like it when you give expensive gifts.  however if you tell them you got it for free. they'll gladly take it."

"a western thanksgiving means a turkey and steamed fish/veges and rice"

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1 comments:

jerlise said...

haha understand how you feel. it applies to my family too. super westernized, and yet these intricate qualities never really go away. i guess it's like they love us children on their own terms :)