facebook and oil.

the topic of substance came up last night.  and what real substance do i have...unless you're talking about money and chicks.  which also equals facebook and oil.  what else is there? 

if tfong were to get kidnapped, we'd make him wait at least a week.  how about me? i'd make you wait a few days.  and i'd want concessions.  what if u got kidnapped? i'd come visit to take pictures. post on fb. and leave.  what if your wife got kidnapped?  def make her wait a weekend.  ha!  what if we got kidnapped together?   we might have fun. 

the idea of moving back to asia is a huge ordeal for me.  my first stint in asia did not live up to certain expectations which led me to go back to the drawing board to try all over again back home.  i don't view it as a failure per se because it got me in the industry.  i'm better versed and i've got almost 5 years under my belt.  in this industry, its a career path that is developed through time and relationships.  in the 2 years i've been back home, building my own home base, i've built my network here but asia still remains the world driver for volume and potential money.  not to mention, asian traders are transient, and culturally, asian traders need to consistently be lobbied hence you need someone on the ground.  americans are easier to do business. they don't negotiate for half a penny.  do the business direct and clean.  marketing managers have long tenure so you always know who to contact.  my company is growing.  restructuring.  and we need someone to handle asia on the ground.  to fully tie the world together efficiently and more streamlined.  i am that candidate.  but the thought of moving back to spore depresses me.  i did not enjoy my time out there.  even if i were to receive an expat package, im not sure i'd volunteer for the upside.  i'd def only pitch korea/shanghai.  with that being said, the intangibles of living in nyc is huge.  socially, friends, lifestyle.  the way i live my life, this is the city that makes me happy.  the 10 year plan of doing well in a career and finding someone to be with and having a family...has most potential here.  i do believe happiness socially leads to a better worker.  i'm the same person at 30.  but at 30 i've solidified my tastes, my habits, my choices.  i know more so what i want.  what i don't want.  i'm more accepting and realistic of who i am and what i can do.  and at 30 my risk profile has come off a bit.  however, with that being said, can i turn down upside?  and am i at the point in my life where what i "want" supersedes growth potential?  can i really do well, or be happy with what i perceive to "have a ceiling on potential?" 

in the end, all i'd give up is my friends.  my social life here.  i could make up for it there.  maybe if they gave me more money i could work out a plan to visit a lot more.  the more i talk about this.  the more i may have made up my mind.  thing is, i'd have to propose it and wait for the firm offer to get it.