"...if you're truly struggling, this isn't the least bit applicable to you, and what you need and deserve in your life is a different matter altogether. but for the rest of us - the worried wealthy - i would argue that there's something that comes on the other side of loss, which, while it might not present itself as happiness, exactly, isn't so far off. Wisdom. Self-knowledge. I don't know, it all gets pretty lame when you try to find the right words for it. The experience I'm trying to describe, though, goes something like this: There's pain, and there's making sense of that pain and then there's the emergence in us of something that's more sensitive to what really matters in our lives. The addition to everything else, this is what loss does - it gives us an opportunity to honestly stop and think, what is important to me? What really makes me happy? How do i preserve that? the other stuff, you deal with it, you recognize it for what it's worth, you do what you can to rebuild. But you also try to keep at the forefront of your mind: I no longer have that, but I have this. I'm no longer that, but I'm this. And this, however you define it for yourself, shouldn't fluctuate with the market" - joel lovell - GQ men + money.
